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So I was reading a book called The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.

He has one chapter named “Women Are Not Liars”. In this chapter, he explains the difference in how men and women answer questions.

Most men are logical and therefore their answer is what it is and what it always will be unless it physically changes somehow. The author puts it as “… the masculine means what it says.”

Most women are emotional and therefore their answer to a question can change based on how they feel at the moment they are asked. The author puts it as “The feminine says what it feels.”

He basically said that to turn a negative answer to a positive, boost a female’s (emotional) state to a more positive one. The example he gave was pretty straightforward but I couldn’t see it working in real life. So I decided to try it for myself.

On Saturday, a friend and I were both a bit tired because I had myself a nice run earlier that day. She watched me run and that can be tiring itself as fast as I was going. After the run, we got to my place and ate rabbit food. Then, I decided we should go to Sam’s Club. While we were waiting to pay for my 50 pound jug of mayonnaise and 35 boxes of waffles, I figured this was the perfect opportunity to try what I had just finished reading.

I asked her if she wanted to go to IKEA afterwards. She’d been to IKEA with me before and she knows that when I’m in there, I’m like Jamaican seeing the snow for the first time. I can be there for hours and leave with nothing but a flower pot.

Any other time, she wouldn’t have minded too much. But that rabbit food wasn’t doing much for sustaining her or me. Plus, I told her we weren’t going to eat out so I’m sure she wanted to get back home soon so the cooking could get started.

So of course she said she didn’t want to go. I could’ve accepted that answer like most guys would have. I didn’t want to go either. I wanted to make my pizza. But I wanted to test this theory.

I got playful and changed her state. She describes it by saying she went from bored to nonchalant. I think it went further than that though. I think it was more like going from bored to slightly pleased.

Either way, I lifted her state a bit and she went from not wanting to go, to not caring if we went or not.

I took that as success and broke the news to her that I didn’t want to go either. I told her about my experiment and what I had learned from the book. She found it funny but I think she was also a bit ruffled that I’m finally catching on.

If you try this, let me know how it goes.

Be well.

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